Is Your Relationship on the Rocks?
We hear it all the time at our Bountiful, Utah Clinic. Perhaps you have felt this way too–Marriage therapy is just another way to “find the bad guy.” Assigning blame, stirring up old arguments that continue to cause pain, facing uncomfortable problems in the bedroom, without ever quite solving the problems.
A lot of couples get to the point where they are desperate for things to be better in their marriage–They seek therapy as a last resort. But sometimes the endless loop of criticism, defensiveness, ignoring each other, or outright contempt has gotten so severe, there is a real chance that the problems have been put off to the point where it’s too late.
Don’t wait until it’s too late!
We Must have Gotten Married for Some Good Reason … Right?
Relationships are less like the calculated chess game we try to make them (“I do this so my spouse will give me affection”, or “I’m doing everything she asks me to do, and she still isn’t happy,” or “This is how marriage works for everyone I know, why doesn’t my marriage work at all?”) and more like a dance where two people bring their emotions, pain, hopes, and fears to the dance floor to swirl around with their partner’s emotions, pain, hopes, and fears.
When a marriage works, it is beautiful and passionate and something you want to be a part of. When marriage stops working, you can feel stepped on, pushed around, and unappreciated.
The couples that we do our best work with are the couples who see divide and heartache in their relationship, but they still hope to work things out. They want to get their relationship dance flowing smoothly again.
Do You Want this to Work?
Most couples don’t want to throw in the towel on something they once felt so passionate about. But betrayal and addiction can complicate things. Who starts a relationship thinking “one day the person I love will hurt me badly and then I will…”?
Few people go into relationships expecting to be hurt the way they often are. But because the wounds that come from addiction and betrayal are not planned, most couples don’t know how to move through the damage and build a strong relationship again.
If you are reading this page, you already have an advantage. In the quest to see if you can save your relationship, you are recognizing that you don’t know what to do. You need help.
We know how to help!
Building a Rock-Solid Relationship
We’ll focus, in the first phase of marital therapy, on helping to turn down some of the intense heat and the ongoing hurt. It’s a lot easier to see yourself and your partner truthfully when you don’t feel like you have to block their incoming swing.
Breaking it Down to the Basics
The parts of the dance are just as important as the dance itself. We will not only learn how to relate to each other better, but we’ll develop a deep understanding of each other.
You will find a well trained and empathetic therapist who practices what they preach in their own relationships. We will go beyond the words, stories, and ideas that you and your partner are trying to exchange with each other, with little result. We’ll help you understand the inner workings of yourself and your relationship.
Science of Marriage Therapy Practiced in Bountiful, Utah
We use clinically proven methods to start bridging the gap between you and your spouse. We want to start you on the path to a relationship you love being a part of.
This isn’t guesswork or touchy-feely clichés. This is a science-based treatment for couples. A lot of groundbreaking work has been revealed in recent decades, giving couples vital tools to fix relationships and innoculate your partnership from divorce.
Start Process Today!
Call now for a free 30-minute phone consultation with one of our Bountiful, Utah-based marriage therapy professionals. We are excited to help help you!