YOU DISCOVERED YOUR PARTNER HAS BEEN KEEPING SECRETS ABOUT
SEX. NOW WHAT?
It’s devastating to discover that your partner has been hiding sexual behavior from you. You may have suspected for a long time that the problem was bigger than you thought. Now that you know more, your world is upside down and it’s difficult to know what to do next.
“Is sex/pornography a real addiction? What does that mean?”
“I am so confused, I have to know everything that happened. Who is this person I’m with?”
“I am so hurt, I don’t want to know anything.”
“Is this going to get better, or am I stuck?”
“What am I supposed to do now?”
It’s common when someone finds out about their partner’s sexual or pornography addiction for them to feel lost or despondent. Swings in mood or perceptions of the relationship are also common. One minute you are angry and ready to leave, and the next minute you feel hopeless and sad at the prospect of losing your relationship.
Prior to discovery, many partners of addicts describe feeling that something was off and not adding up. They also may have felt like they were the problem.
Maybe you tried being more kind, understanding, exciting, or sexual to fix what you thought was wrong.
No matter how you found out about your loved one’s secret sexual life, the biggest hurt comes from the dishonesty. You’re realizing that there may have been years of hiding, lies, and coverups. It’s normal to feel like the reality you knew has collapsed.
One of the people we have worked with described it this way after discovering their spouse’s sexual addiction:
Finding out about secret sexual problems or infidelity can rip the rug out from under you. It’s normal to feel alone, full of shame or anger, and completely confused about what to do next. Sometimes the only thing that makes sense is to be fully focused on your spouse and getting them the help that they need.
Partners of sex/pornography addicts can feel forgotten in the healing process. There are groups, books, and help in abundance for an addict, but help for partners can be harder to find.
We understand that and offer complete supportive services to partners of addicts. We will help you through the rough first stages of your journey to healing.
We will help you to understand the traumatic impact that discovering sexual or pornography addiction has on you. Recent studies indicate that partners of sex or pornography addicts experience many of the same reactions and symptoms as people who suffer with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).
YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT AND HOPE FOR THINGS TO GET BETTER: RECLAIM YOUR LIFE NOW.
We provide a safe place in which you can respond to the crisis of discovery and the emotional aftershock. You will soon find your voice and feelings again and be responding to these challenges clearly and effectively.
You can reclaim yourself and your relationships from addiction. We know how to help. Contact us now for your free 30-minute phone consultation to get started.