Contact Me to Schedule 30-Minute Evaluation!

Disclosure After Sexual Betrayal

Sexual Betrayal Causes Trauma Which Needs Therapy from a Utah Therapist

So, you’ve discovered your partner has been keeping secrets about sex.

Now What?

It’s devastating to discover that your partner is a sex addict. You’re experiencing what modern-day therapists call “betrayal trauma.” You are in pain and need guidance.

You may have suspected for a long time that your partner’s problem was more significant than you thought. Now that you know, your world is upside down, and it’s challenging to know what to do next.

Questions probably bombard your mind:

  • “Is sex/pornography a real addiction?”
  • “I am so confused; I have to know everything that happened. Who is this person I’m with?”
  • “I am so hurt, I don’t want to know anything. Should I want to know?”
  • “Is this going to get better, or am I stuck?”
  • “What am I supposed to do now?”

You surely want help. But are you wondering what type of therapy is best for this type of trauma? Are you concerned about what might be available in Bountiful, Utah?

Feeling Lost

It’s common when someone finds out about their partner’s sexual or pornography addiction for them to feel lost or despondent. Swings in mood or perceptions of the relationship are also frequent. One minute you are angry and ready to leave, and the next minute, you feel hopeless and sad at the prospect of losing your relationship. 

Before the discovery of addiction, many partners of addicts describe feeling that something was off and not adding up. They also may have felt like they were causing the problem. Maybe you tried being more kind, understanding, sexually exciting, or interested in sex to fix what you thought was wrong, yet nothing seemed to be solving the underlying problem.

No matter how you found out about your loved one’s secret sexual life, the most significant pain comes from the dishonesty and betrayal. You’re realizing that there may have been years of hiding, lies, and coverups. It’s normal to feel like the reality you knew has collapsed.

You’re suffering from betrayal trauma, which is a real and particular type of mental health injury.

A Partner of a Sex Addict Tells Their Story Finding Help

One of the people we have worked with described it this way after discovering a spouse’s sexual addiction:

“You could take me outside and tell me the sky was orange and I wouldn’t know if that was true or not.  I don’t know what is real and what isn’t anymore.”

The Isolation of Knowing the Truth

Finding out about secret sexual problems or infidelity can rip the rug out from under you. It’s normal to feel alone, full of shame or anger, and completely confused about what to do next. Sometimes the only thing that makes sense is to be entirely focused on your spouse and getting them the help that they need, instead of treating your trauma. Don’t underestimate just how powerful betrayal can affect your life. Particular challenges come to trauma survivors here in Utah.

Partners of addicts can feel forgotten in the healing process. There are therapy groups, books, and help in abundance for someone addicted to sex–but finding support for partners of addicts can be harder to find.

Sexual Intimacy

We understand and offer support services to betrayed partners of addicts. We have a team of Certified Sex Addiction Therapists who regularly work with clients struggling with behavioral addictions. Often, at the root of these addictions are difficulty with sexual intimacy. Healing from deep trauma and sexual wounds usually involve both the person afflicted with addiction and their partner. Marriage counseling is an essential part of the healing process. Our team of licensed therapists will help your family through the rough first stages of this journey to healing.

We will help you to understand the traumatic impact that discovering sexual or pornography addiction has on you. Recent studies indicate the partners of sex or pornography addicts experience many of the same reactions and symptoms as people with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

Don’t Wait. Betrayal Trauma is Damaging

Don’t just sit tight and hope for things to get better. Reclaim your life now!

Therapy in Utah is Available

We provide a safe place where you can respond to the crisis of discovery and emotional aftershock. You will soon find your voice and feelings again and be responding to these challenges clearly and effectively.

You can reclaim yourself and your relationships from sex addiction. We know how to treat betrayal trauma. Our Davis County-based counselors specialize in this kind of therapy for our Utah clients. Contact us now for your FREE 30-minute phone consultation to get started changing your marriage and partnership.