Message from Utah Therapist, Christina Ellwanger, about Starting Therapy
It’s very common when we have mental and emotional struggles to feel isolated, to feel like we just have to figure it out on our own, and you absolutely do not have to.
If I meet someone and they’re considering looking for a therapist, starting the therapy process, I absolutely encourage that. 100%! I say:
“Go for it!”
“Get out there.”
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Because it is an investment in yourself, your life, your mental health, and your emotional well-being. And to my thinking, all of those need to be a priority in our lives. And if we can invest the time and attention to bettering those, it’s absolutely worth it.
It’s an important relationship. So, like every important relationship, it might take a little time to find the right person. And, that’s okay. Like I said, look around. Ask questions. But, know that it’s a really important step to take in life.
Even just knowing that there are resources out there, like—individual therapy, or group therapy, support groups—Just knowing what’s available, I think it shifts our perspective to know: “I have the option of pursuing help or healing.” There are so many resources out there where people can find support and find connection and start that process of self-inquiry and healing and growth.
After You Start Therapy, What Can You Expect to Happen over Time?
A Message from Rachel Allen
People initially coming into therapy at our clinic are looking to get a problem solved. They’re usually in a crisis when they’re coming into my Utah office, whether it’s anxiety, depression, addiction, sexual issues—And, they want that problem solved.
As we start talking, I usually talk to people, like: I think that we’re organic beings. I mean, we are!
But I usually talk to people in terms of, like, our roots systems. There are, sometimes, when the tree is sick, it’s not ever about the leaves being sick. It’s something deep and internal, and so, I try to kind of pull on that string as long a client will let me figure out what’s there?—what is the root cause of the issues?
Because we can slap a bandaid on it and say: “Here are the boundaries, and as long we stay in the boundaries, things will be great.”
Which works for a while until it doesn’t.
And I probably just in my own work as a licensed therapist have come to understand there is a well of human existence in our brains and our souls. And if we can tap into that on any level in therapy–people can really become who they’re supposed to be, who they were born to be, who they get to grow into, and learn to express that in a relationship that is in some ways more vulnerable than they will ever be with anybody. And, I think that that’s incredibly powerful.
But I also don’t think people can come into our therapy clinic saying, “This is what I want,” when they’re in crisis.
So, we get the crisis settled, and then we start looking at:
What do you want to be when you grow up?
What do you like?
What do you desire? And, how do we negotiate that in a relationship?
How do you get to be the person you want to be, and how does your spouse get to be the person they want to be, and how do we bring that together?
How do you get to be the parent you want to be?
Right, that’s some of this powerful work, and often we’re just kind of asking: “Well, what’s wrong with me?” And I think that there’s so much about human beings that is beautiful and worthy to tap into. Right, that: “What’s right with me?”
What are the things that I, in my gut, know is real and know is true, and I don’t know how to express that? I want to get to the place where we start to figure that out and bring that forward because I think that’s more powerful in therapy for the people I work with here in Utah.